How Trauma Therapy Works

What should I expect from trauma therapy?  How will I feel?  Will it take long?  How do I know if it’s going well? These are natural questions about how trauma therapy works.  Let’s dive in.

A thousand kinds of trauma

Because trauma can come in many different forms–physical, psychological, sexual, short-term or long-term–trauma therapy will look different for each person.  Some of it will depend on the symptoms you’re facing.  It will depend on your resiliency and your resources.  Yet, no matter what kind of trauma and exactly how it affected you, there are some important similarities.  (For a list of classic PTSD symptoms, read here. Or learn about childhood trauma and its impacts.)  Because of these similarities, all effective trauma treatments share some basic themes.

How trauma therapy works–safety first

The first thing that’s needed to address trauma is safety.  Without it, there can be no recovery.  Why should there be?  Trauma reactions are adaptive–they are actually helpful if you are under threat.  If you’re in the war zone, you’d better wake up at the slightest noise and grab your rifle without thinking.  If you’re in an abusive relationship, you’d better be hypersensitive to your abuser’s moods.  And if you’re being repeatedly beaten or raped week after week, then it’s best if your brain finds a way to just not be there.  Your mind checks you out of reality–it’s the only way to tolerate the intolerable.

But when it’s over, and the traumatic experience isn’t happening anymore, these things, these things that were so helpful while it was happening–they suddenly become symptoms.  You’re avoiding crowds and jumping at small noises, you’re hypersensitive to those around you and fly off the handle at tiny provocations.  Or you find yourself constantly checking out of work, checking out of your marriage.  You don’t feel like you’re there; and that’s because you aren’t.

So where are you?  Well, you’re back in the trauma.  You know it’s over, but your body doesn’t.  It’s not enough for it to actually be over.  You have to somehow fully experience that.  That’s why we start with safety.

Safety means several things.  First, you have to feel safe with your therapist.  If you don’t, find a different one.  Second, you have to be safe in your life.  You can’t still be living with your abuser, you can’t still be tolerating their denial.  You also have to get free from toxic relationships that will trigger your abuse reactions.  For some reason, when we’ve been traumatized, we sometimes unknowingly seek out situations that are similar.  That’s got to stop.  You have to be in control of your life in order to heal.


Next comes the heart of how trauma therapy works.  In the past, we used talk therapy alone.  This can work, but it takes a long time (sometimes many years).  Nowadays, we have powerful techniques which are based on working with the body, such as EMDR.  They’re often very effective, and usually shorter.  Sometimes a lot shorter.

Trauma therapy helps your brain/body process the memory of the trauma.  Even though you may not remember it well, your body remembers it.  Your body remembers every blow, every word, every move your perpetrator made, and it remembers not only what happened and what you did to try to help and defend yourself, but also what your body wanted to do.  The problem is, this memory is stuck.  The brain hasn’t put it into place, the way it does with normal memories.  Once it has done this, the trauma goes from being something that is still happening to something that happened in the past.  It’s a bad thing, for sure, but a bad thing that is finally over.

Why use special techniques?

There are a number of special techniques that can be helpful here.  I’m trained in several of them, and they can be very effective.  They work with what is happening in the body–I teach you how to pay attention to it, and how to start letting it resolve itself (remember, the body wants to heal).  So in our sessions, we’ll jump-start that positive, healing process. The techniques help us get “unstuck.”

There’s a lot to do here.  The charge has to be let out of the body, and the sadness has to be let out of the soul. Trauma therapy work takes some time and effort.  You don’t feel better after every session.  Sometimes you feel a bit worse.  But gradually, as you go through the process, you begin to get relief.  As a result, you begin to feel lighter, more clear, more present, more confident and capable, more (dare we say) normal.  You begin to feel more like yourself.


Once this happens, you can begin to rejoin your life.  You reconnect with others, build new relationships, engage in new activities (or dust off the old ones).  Love, work and play:  All the things that were on hold while you were suffering so much.

How long does it take?  No one can say.  But if it’s going well, there should be things happening at almost every step that are helpful to you.  And it can take a lot less time than it used to, again, if it’s done well.  Some of the modern therapies seem strange (actually, all of the ones that seem to work well seem strange), but they’re pretty powerful.  If you don’t feel anything is happening or changing after a few months, you might want to re-evaluate.  On the other hand, you can’t put a time limit on it, either.  It takes what it takes. Just keep walking downhill and you’ll eventually make it to the river.

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